The weather is cooling, the summer is winding down, and you know what that means: cuffing season is almost upon us. You can blame it on Libra season right around the corner (after all, the flirty air sign’s mind is usually on some sort of partnership) or Mars in Cancer turning us all into softies, but either way, it’s hard to deny that love is on the mind!
Don’t be surprised if it feels like it’s time to get serious, too. Summer flings are over, and with your eyes looking ahead to the darker months, you want a partner you can see bunking up with for the long haul. We’re talking deep, soulmate-level connections.
To help you find your perfect match and attract the love you deserve, we’ve put together sign-specific affirmations. Don’t forget to check both your sun and rising signs for the best results!
Aries
Love will come to me at the perfect time.
You know you can be more than a little impatient, Aries. When you want something, you want it now. But that’s not always how love works. Forcing something to work just for immediate relief isn’t what great love stories are built on. Sometimes, you need to wait a little and peruse your options before you settle in. Remember that every step you take is bringing you closer to finding the one. As long as you remain open, you won’t have to force anything.
Taurus
I can embrace change, and view it as growth.
Old habits are hard to break, Taurus, and you are very set in your routine. You’re looking for someone to fit into your life seamlessly, and we’re not sure how realistic that really is. Good relationships can be about growth and possibility, and you’re closing yourself off from exploring that when you stick too closely to your tried and true. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there (at least for a little bit). You might be surprised by how easily you embrace this new you that emerges.
Gemini
I will make time for myself.
Feels a little counterintuitive at first, Gemini, but hear us out: your sociable nature makes you the life of the party, but it’s easy to get lost in such a packed schedule. You have no trouble meeting new people—you have your vast network to pull from, after all—but are you stopping to analyze those connections? And do you know what it is you even want from them? Make sure you’re prioritizing yourself in your quest for your soulmate, and that might mean pulling back from the social scene for a bit.
Cancer
I can confidently communicate my needs in a relationship.
Oh, sweet Cancer, you’re such a good listener, and your intuition is so strong that it’s easy for you to get pulled into a one-way conversation. Sometimes, you might not even realize it yourself! But love doesn’t exist solely in subtext. To attract the kind of relationship you want, you’re going to need to make sure you show up in your connections. Don’t fall back on hints to try to capture your beloved. Make yourself heard, be clear in your communication, and don’t accept anything less than what you deserve.
Leo
I prioritize the people who help me shine.
Let’s be real: you have no problem standing out in a crowd, Leo. But being the center of attention doesn’t always mean your best qualities are coming through. You want a partner who makes you feel like the greatest possible version of yourself, the version of yourself that stands by your values, lives creatively, and moves authentically. And this type of person isn’t easy to come by, so when you find them, make sure you’re giving them the energy they deserve in return.
Virgo
People can meet me where I am.
This can be hard to hear for someone so keen to chase after what they want. But, Virgo, you need to stop doing everyone else’s work for them! Your soulmate isn’t going to be found in someone who gives back 20% of what you’re giving. And what’s the best way to find this perfect person who not only understands and respects you, but also meets your energy 100%? By letting them come to you, of course. Stay open to connection, but don’t give in to chasing after potential.
Libra
Putting myself out there doesn’t have to feel risky.
You aren’t the riskiest of the zodiac signs, Libra, but a big part of finding love is opening yourself up and getting vulnerable. We wish it was all fun and flirting, however, in order for someone to really get to know you, you need to share the parts of yourself that live deeper below the surface. While this can feel destabilizing, it doesn’t need to be all or nothing. Find the middle ground in these conversations, and move as slowly as you need to. Some of the best love stories are slow burns.
Scorpio
I am open to love, no matter where it comes from.
It’s no secret that you have a strong vision of what you want, Scorpio. This is where all your drive and passion come from! So, while it’s great that you know what you want, this steadfastness might have you cutting off connections with great people who might not fit into your mold exactly right. What is it they say about not judging a book by its cover? Just remember: as long as you get the same end result, there’s no harm in opening yourself to some unexpected options.
Sagittarius
I am the expert on how I feel.
Sagittarius, you’re so adventurous that you could probably convince yourself that you like just about anything. As the most optimistic sign, you can see untapped potential anywhere, even allowing truly incompatible people to take you on a journey (just for the bit, of course!) But at the end of the day, you know who you are, what you want, and even what you deserve. If the end goal is to find your person, you need to learn to trust your gut.
Capricorn
I will enjoy the journey, not just the end result.
Finding the perfect person can be so tedious—you need to weed through the options, have initial conversations, build intimacy, only to get sent all the way back to the beginning if it doesn’t work out! Trust us, we know it’s exhausting. But if there was ever a hard worker, it’s you, Capricorn. With your eyes on the prize, it can be hard to open up and not try to speedrun the relationship building. Slow down, trust the process, and let the journey play out.
Aquarius
I can be a collaborative partner.
Aquarius, Aquarius, are they ever going to match your freak? Your dedication to who you are is admirable, and it’s helped you find some authentic and loyal relationships. We know you aren’t going to change who you are (nor should you!) but every relationship has some sort of give and take. There’s a big difference between someone trying to change you and someone trying to grow with you. If dig in your heels at every mention of evolution, you’ll close yourself off from the type of connection you want.
Pisces
I welcome the surprises that love can bring.
If there’s one thing holding you back, Pisces, it’s probably that you can see how a situation will play out before you’ve even entered it. To be fair, you’re proven right a fair amount of time, but the other times, you’re just holding yourself back from a potentially strong connection. As emotionally intelligent as you are, you don’t know everything. Try to find joy in the twists and turns that come from finding your soulmate connection. You’ll be surprised what ends up happening when you don’t try to predict everything.